Yeah I have noticed when cold my car almost refuses to shift from 1-2.. I have to shift very slow and there is very little to no sync in the morning I have to hold the clutch and wait for serval seconds and even then its tough to get into 2nd...
I agree this should not be happening at all..
and for the guys grinding I'd say there is a big clutch/ transaxle issue there
sorry your having such bad trouble.
Once warm seems fine
I was hopefully this car would not have this type of issue and is why I traded my car